Before I had Kathy, I would have been appalled. I thought the worst thing would be to have a mentally disabled kid with no capacity for interaction and understanding.
Now I think the worst thing would be to have an uncontrollable kid; one of those boys who never grows out of the toddler tantrums but grows bigger and stronger than you are. Tantrums are bad enough when you can pick them up and take them outside; when you *can't* stop them and they are a danger to you and themselves and third parties, I don't see what you *can* do which is simultaneously humane and safe for everyone involved.
I don't like this. I especially don't like it for things like hair-pulling (why not just shave their head, if it's that much of an issue...) and depression, and I worry that they're teaching kids to behave as if they're not in pain rather than fixing pain. But I'm prepared to think that in some cases there isn't a better approach.
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Date: 2006-10-12 11:14 am (UTC)Now I think the worst thing would be to have an uncontrollable kid; one of those boys who never grows out of the toddler tantrums but grows bigger and stronger than you are. Tantrums are bad enough when you can pick them up and take them outside; when you *can't* stop them and they are a danger to you and themselves and third parties, I don't see what you *can* do which is simultaneously humane and safe for everyone involved.
I don't like this. I especially don't like it for things like hair-pulling (why not just shave their head, if it's that much of an issue...) and depression, and I worry that they're teaching kids to behave as if they're not in pain rather than fixing pain. But I'm prepared to think that in some cases there isn't a better approach.